Okay so I know that my friends are some of the most amazing moms I know and they are going through the same things as me right now so I need some ideas on keeping your kids in bed when it is bedtime. I have become very relaxed on this issue since I have been on my own. I think this is for a number of reasons. The first is because I don't have someone to help me keep them in bed and inforce the rules. A male is always good to enforce bedtime rules. Have any of you noticed this? That is one thing I miss. And two I don't have a husband who lives with me that I am wanting alone time with. Oh and let's not forget three I like my kids to sleep in as long as possible so that I can too. I prefer nights to mornings. Although when I go to the gym early in the morning I do feel really good. Anyway, I do need some time to myself and I know they would feel better if they went to bed earlier so I need your ideas and ways that you keep your kids in their beds. If only they could all stay in cribs. Becks is no problem. I put him down at 7:30 or 8:00. But Bryn and Stock get out of their beds a million times and a lot of the time end up sleeping with me. So any ideas that you have would be wonderful!
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Hi Trista, cute cute blog. Somehow through the "power of blogging", I found it. You look so good and your kids are beautiful. It is so crazy seeing people with children when you have not seen them for awhile. Not that I'm an expert, but with Tyson he has been going to bed between 6:30-7:00 since he was about 10 months old, mostly because I am selfish and want to be alone, and partly because he needs the sleep. But, he started coming out a while ago every now and then, when I thought he was asleep. So, now I let him take a toy to bed that he really likes, and if he gets out, it goes in time out. Or, until recently, he had a favorite blanket and if he got out of bed, it went in time out. Bribery always works best with him.
Get tough! Ask your mom and dad for some help for the next week or two w/ bedtime. You'll ALL be happier for it. After about a week or two of a strict schedule & NO budging on bedtime, they'll be on a schedule. I don't care if my kids sneak in my bed in the middle of the night but they MUST go to bed @ 8:00 on the dot! You can do it! Call me for support:). Good Luck!!!! Last night I was in bed by 9:30. Can you believe it? Asleep by 10:00. Today I feel great. See ya later! We'll talk more about this:).
I've read a lot of tips on this in magazines and one idea that sticks out is to give the kids a "pass" that allows them to get up ONCE - for a drink or to tell you something. I've never done it...but it's an idea.
My kids like to have their doors cracked, and if they get up once I don't say anything. The second time I remind them that the next time the door is closed. Then if they get up a third time the door is closed, which is misery to them and they cry themselves to sleep. But, it only took a couple times and now they will not get out once I give them the "next time and your door is closed" warning. Sometimes they will beg, "But I just have to tell you one thing" and I'll say "is it worth having your door closed to tell me?" I'm so mean!
Good for you you to realize that you need that time. Especially with your schooling. My kids are 7:30 bedtimes, which loosely translated means lights out by 8:00. Kids NEED more sleep than most of them are getting. Get into a routine that starts at 7 with baths and pj's. Then brush teeth. Read stories and then bed. Once you get into a routine, they will adjust and get used to it and expect it.
Good Luck. I LOVE bedtime!
I saw this on Supernanny once and I think she counseled the family to set a strict bedtime routine and everytime one of the kids got out of bed they were to get up and physically put them back in their beds and after a few nights they went right to sleep. I would sit down with Brynlee and Stockton and be honest with them letting them know that you have gotten too laxed with their bedtimes and starting tonight we are going to get back on track. Let them know that they will feel better with more sleep and that you need to have alone time. I think our kids really appreciate when we are strait with them. Tell them exactly what the routine will be so that they know exactly what to expect. Then let them know what the consequences will be if they disobey. Then be consistant and hopefully it will take them 2-3 nights and they will get it. Kids are smart. It won't take them long to figure out that you are serious. Be encouraging. Tell them that you know they can do it and thank them when they obey. Maybe tell them that if they stay in their beds for an entire week without getting out that you will take them to Chuck E Cheese or some other reward that you all agree on. Good luck!
I agree, get tough!! Set a routine, and stick to it, no matter what. Don't give them the option of getting out of bed (I know easier said than done). Just hang in there for a few days, they will get it!! (((hugs))) it is so hard when they don't sleep!!
ok, so I am so with you on this, My kids totally listen to Ryan over me. I think it is to because they are used to us telling them no all day so they aren't afraid of us at all.
This may sound so mean but I put their lock on the opposite side of the door and I give them one warning and (this is mostly Bailee) after her first warning (and she always has about 50 little reasons for coming out, like telling me she loves me 500 times, drinks of water, blowing her nose,ect ect ect I'm getting annoyed just thinking about it.) anyways make sure they have a drink, go to the bathroom,and everything before, and then after their one warning just lock the door and don't say anything for like 20 minutes. I'm sure they will go hysterical. but after a few times of that Bailee knew that I mean Business.
I need to do that again because she had been getting awful at it again. good luck.
and it looks like you had fun at gateway, I totally want to get a pass when I get up there. sorry for the novel, I miss you.
I keep checking back to see your comments on this. We started the GET TOUGH method a little over a week ago & now we start bedtime routine around 7:30 & they are in bed by 8:00 & usually asleep just a short while later. They don't even leave their beds. They are totally proud of themselves for it too. I just heard Caleb & Camden talking about it on their own how they went right to bed last night. I'm seeing that it's good for them to be on a schedule. O.K enough said. We need an update on how it's going and what you are doing.
Oh MY, been there! CONSISTANT CONSISTANT, CONSISTANT is all I have to say. Kids are just waiting for you to crack and sometime at just that moment when you think you can't enforce anymore is when they FINIALLY comply. We are 7pm bedtime people and have always been that way but it has been a fight. I remember Ben and I, when the twins were little we would have to sit basicly sit on top of them in their bed. They would lay down and we would sit on their beds with our legs on top of theirs and hold them down. They would scream and holler and we would just sit and look across the room at each other completely ignoring their "behavioral noise", eventually they got it. Hang in there and good luck!!
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